37 year old woman dating
She says things like “I need him to say he wants a relationship, and then I’ll open up,” or “Once he gets to know me, he probably won’t like me.” The Scaredy Cat may put her guy through lots of tests before she feels confident that he’s truly interested.
Like you, the men you’re dating have lived and learned. The only way you can empathize is to know their side of the story.
I'd bet if you asked a bunch of older people how old they actually felt, they'd say something like "early 20's". Ironically it's always young people who say they feel 65 (there was a thread like that not long ago in Chat I think). The lack of change in who I am relative to when I was younger is one reason why it seems time goes by faster than it used to. I've also been with my boyfriend for four years (five years this January!
), but we met when I had just turned 17 and he was about to turn 30, so obviously now we're 21 and 34.
Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the disappearing/reappearing Pinger, the Couch Potato, and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.
I’ve talked to countless single men over the years about their experiences with women, especially those in midlife and beyond.