Dating your friend with benefits
Have an agreement ahead of time so you're clear on what's really going on.Think carefully about how your relationship with a potential FWB might evolve if you added sex to it and how you’d deal if for some reason you two became less close. That friend of your cousin’s who’s hot but whom you just don’t see yourself having a full-blown relationship with? stay friends, Meyers says: "You may enter the situation going, 'I don't want commitment, this is so much easier,' but the minute you start kissing, the oxytocin stars flowing and your emotions get in the way." On the flip side, he could be the one who starts wanting more, which could get awkward if you don't feel the same.
The more specific you are about setting guidelines — How often are you going to see each other? Yes, you two are friends, meaning — presumably — that you get along and have a good time together. But think twice before making your FWB your date to your college BFF’s wedding or inviting them to dinner with your parents.You see a whole new side of that person that you hadn't seen before, and as a result, you may have to update your definition of friendship.Just because you and your FWB aren't going on consistent dates or outings, doesn't mean you're off scot-free and never have to check in with them.Here are some important things to keep in mind before considering a no-strings attached hookup: While the knee-jerk reaction to this might be "lol of course not, I don't care!" you should be real and concrete about your reaction to yourself, explains Sarah Hewitt, LMFT.